Marriage is a beautiful union of two souls who promise to share their lives together through all odds and evens. Two people who willingly pray to stay in love till their hair turn grey and faces get wrinkles. Though a marriage gives an individual enough space to spread one’s wings, to choose the path good for financial stability and mental wellbeing, still there are few people who make fun of holy matrimony.
There’s a joke about marriage that I read somewhere.. Here it goes: “When you’re single, you can change the world but once you’re married, you can’t even change the damn channel”. Like really? How can a person define freedom in a marriage on the basis of tv channel? If you are among those couples who are facing difficulty in your healthy married life, the dream of getting enough space to do the things you like the most or want to accomplish something worthy in your life. So, all the newlyweds who are scared to get married, read the below-mentioned advice to form mutual understanding between you too.
• Always talk to your spouse and discuss your dreams/aspirations/needs/identity and what it means to you ( this could be irrespective of gender). Moreover, How will your partner understand you better unless you share your vision and thoughts.
• Have clear goals and understanding of your needs- for yourself/for kids/ for family/for academics. Have a healthy conversation with your partner regarding all the significant matters as your inner happiness depends upon all this.
• Prioritise your needs and family responsibilities – remember to accomplish it, there will be loads of adjustment/compromise, trial, and errors but eventually, you will be successful in getting best time that suits your needs.
• Every person on this beautiful planet has flaws and good traits. do Identify your strong and weak areas/ talk about them with your spouse and understand individual’s needs- this will create a win-win situation and will help you to avoid misunderstandings.
Do not get into social image issues- if you, your spouse, your family are agreeing to arrangements and roles that have been decided/ identified ( though NOT fixed rules) succumbing to social demands is not a good idea because society always have problem even if a husband supports his wife, they call him “joru ka gulaam” and if doesn’t support, then society badmouth him with “see how irresponsible he is”. So, create your own heaven, don’t let society decide what kind of relationship bond you need to possess.
• Do keep in mind that this will not be an easy journey to walk. it’s a responsibility of a couple to make their marriage successful. for this, each partner will have to learn to adjust with the needs and demands of the family and rigour of the academic course.
• Find time for yourself no matter how much busy you are. Create a timetable and plan for your success in your exams – take baby steps and be confident that you can achieve your dream.
Having support and faith of spouse is the path of success