Heated arguments and fights are part and parcel of married life. When you marry your partner, you must understand that you can’t agree with him/her on every topic which is quite fair as you both have unique individuals with different opinions.
But are you among the couples who use to bring out past mistakes of your partner he/she did 5 years ago without the intention of hurting you? Are you the one who never forgets what your partner said in anger a few years back? If you belong to this category, sorry to say but you are wrong on your part.
Though fights are an inevitable part of your marriage but remembering the bitter words of your partner make your marriage hostile.
This article would be of great help for the couples who have recently married or soon going to marry. At mangal parinay, I am trying to make you understand that digging up past mistakes of your soulmate whenever you have a harsh encounter with your spouse harm your marriage.
So, all the newlywed couples, put a full stop to your habit of taking out past mistakes of your partner as initial years of marriage would be little difficult for both of you since you don’t know your soulmate completely and are in a stage of exploring him/her.
You both love each other but love doesn’t mean that your partner should relate to your each and every perspective or viewpoint. Don’t harbour resentment in your heart as it will only make you burst out in more anger that would ultimately affect your married peace in an adverse way.
Though it is agreeable that your partner shouldn’t have uttered insensitive words. If you understand your partner well than you have to accept that he spoke those words out of frustration and tension, he didn’t truly mean any of those words. Don’t give those hurtful words a little place in your heart and mind as it can end up snatching happiness from your married life.
What is the need of holding those words when your partner has already apologized for his wrongdoing? Yes! Many couples tend to forget that their partner was actually in a guilt or feeling ashamed for treating you badly. Instead of memorizing heart-rending and painful words, remember the self-accusation your partner had been gone through.
Do you know one more reason why should you avoid fetching past mistakes/wrongdoings? When you have a conflict with your spouse, the digging up of past mistakes that happened years ago only adds fuel to a fire and we all are quite aware of hazards of a firestorm. Be careful.
Last but not the least, you both are not enemies of each other. Though he/she have made you feel regret for choosing him/her as a partner, give him some time to realize his mistake. The art of forgetting is must if you want to add life to your relationship. Let the things which have happened in the past remain in past for the growth of your holy matrimony.
Make sure your anger fades away into obscurity for having a healthy matrimony with your other half without whom your life would have missed these significant colours. Always pay a thought to good dead done by your partner to keep you happy and content.
It is a humble request to all the partner who deeply hurt their other half when they are angry. Don’t flare up…your relationship comes first…your partner doesn’t do anything intentionally. Forgive them and try to move on with love.