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How To Maintain Love In Your Marriage After Arrival Of New Born Baby

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Experiencing Parenthood is life’s greatest blessing almighty God showers upon a couple. It’s being said, “your family isn’t complete until you two become three” …which literally means unless you both welcome a little newborn in your life. The arrival of a little baby in your life makes both of you matured, helps in forming a stronger bond of love, and brings happiness and good luck with the little feet.

But in today’s era, planning a family or thinking to have a baby is what scares most of the newlywed couples. They tend to think that their holy matrimony experiences change after having a baby (obvious not for good reasons) as they won’t get enough time for themselves and each other. They have a notion that their life only revolves around looking after the upbringing of the innocent kid but it’s not true. You can cherish a marital bliss even after welcoming the cute little newborn in your family. Go through the article to learn how to be an ideal lover even after becoming responsible parents or exemplary mom and dad.

• Be selfish

No that doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice the needs of the little infant to put yours first. We understand that the wellbeing of a baby is your only priority but don’t forget it takes happy parents to raise a happy baby and for being a happy parent, you need to be happy individuals first. So, find out some ‘me’ and ‘us’ time together regularly when your baby snuggles up to bed.

• Have a sex life

It is obvious that you have made up your mind to spend plenty of time to look after your baby like changing diapers, or feeding but don’t make it an excuse to avoid your sex life completely. Make it a post-baby have a healthy sex life post-baby which you were enjoying before the arrival of a newborn.

• Snuggle together

You may experience back pain, tiredness or dizziness because you don’t get time to sleep properly. If you’re feeling less attractive after delivery, cuddle, touch and kissing will help you feel close enough with your partner.

• Take help of closed ones

Don’t let a new family member or baby take a toll on your married life. There were times when people used to live in joint families and couples of that generation were comparatively happy because they have elders to look after their kid and due to the fact, they used to get more time to spend together. We understand that it’s an era of nuclear family but before you opt for parenthood, ask your family and close friends to support you and will be there to tackle the challenge. You will notice a much stronger bond between you two post-baby.

• Have a specific space (bedroom) for your kid

It is the most significant decision that needs to be discussed when you plan to have a baby or have a baby in your lap. You will definitely have to bring in the idea of co sleeping for two-three years but as your baby ages, make it clear that he have his own bed inspite of sharing your bed. If you have enough space in your house, arrange a bedroom for him in such a way you can monitor him/her from your bed.

• Say Thank You

Appreciating each other after having baby is a must to maintain a healthy bond of marriage. Say enough thanks to your partner to be there with you emotionally, mentally and physically whenever you broke down or thought your married life is finished. Make your better half feel more valued to lend a helping hand always as nurturing a kid is the responsibilities of both the parents.

• Make time to date

Keep dating even after you become blessed parents of a baby. It becomes difficult for a couple to spend some quality time together post-baby but once you are a family, you both need to work harder to give some time for your relationship. Plan to watch a movie on the sofa when your baby falls asleep but make constant plans of going out, having a dinner together, opt out to walk hand in hand. Ask your parents for help when you make a plan.

• Share the burden of work of your partner

Needless to say, a woman’s housework increases 2-3 times rather than that of man. She has to maintain a balance between her office, daily chores and meeting the needs of the little one. On the other hand, a man leaves to the office with a tiffin packed and returns back with dinner ready. A marriage fails when a man doesn’t take equal responsibilities in the upbringing of the little kid like a woman. You must help your partner in daily chores whether it’s about laundry or changing the diaper. There is no surprise woman with the partner who contributes to housework and childcare are happier and experience a healthy matrimony that those without help.