Marriage is a beautiful thing where you get to spend entire life with the person you love embracing their weakness and appreciating their strengths but in India, you don’t marry a person, you marry the whole family. You have to take a decision and make every plan keeping your in-law’s expectations and happiness in mind. The honeymoon phase is over for newlyweds and its time to plan first holidays where will you both go to spend leisure time? First holidays for newlyweds can be little tricky if your in-laws want you to spend those days with you. As you are trying to get adjusted in a new relationship, it might be the worst nightmare for newlyweds how will they be able to survive with their mother in laws.

For some couples, it’s almost a ritual to visit his family for Christmas and new year holidays, for others it’s full of dilemma. Read this article to know how to spend first holidays with your in-laws.

First and foremost rule is to treat your spouse parents like you want him to treat yours.

• Adopt the new tradition

Since childhood, your way of spending holidays with your parents and siblings would have have been different in comparison to your spouse’s family but don’t get disheartened. Embrace the new tradition. Feel the joy and happiness in doing something different with extended family.

• Spend some quality time with your mother in law.

You are a new member of his family who is trying hard to feel comfortable with everyone. Holidays are a great chance to spend some quality time with your mother inaw resulting into the formation of an emotional bond. Help her doing the cleaning, decorating, cooking or any other tasks that need some help. Your mother in law will appreciate your gesture.

• Never compare

Every family has their own way of doing things. It might happen that cooking style of your mother in law may differ to your mother. For example the cheese sandwich your mother used to make for breakfast may taste delicious than the one your mother in law made but don’t play the contest by comparison. Anticipate the differences.

• Have some us time

It is justified that you have come for holidays to spend time with everyone but devote some us time. Go for an evening walk with your spouse. Getting no time to spend with your partner may irritate you that will have an adverse effect on your mood and which may affect your other relations.

• Don’t hold grudges

You may be dreaming about the memorable time with your mother in law but there may be times where words said by your mother in law can hurt you. Don’t hold the grudges by taking everything personal. Forget and forgive as they are your people. Most importantly Marriage needs a little adjustment, be prepared in advance.

• Plan a short trip

If you are still worried how your first holidays may turn out? Will they be fun? Will they be stressful? Or how will you adjust with your mother in law? We advise you to plan a short trip. No matter if your in-laws like to spend time between Christmas to the new year. Sit with your spouse and plan in advance how many days you are going to spend so that it doesn’t cause conflict between both of you.

Newlyweds! We wish you have blast during your first holidays with your in-laws and extended family members. Enjoy the trip to the fullest and be excited for each day during the holidays.