Marriage is the best phase of someone’s life. Its the feeling when being with someone makes you fall more in love with that person every day. It’s a relationship where being with someone makes you feel like a contract or a commitment it is a covenant.There can be many goals as a couple you can achieve together. From the tiniest goal to great achievements. Nonetheless, there are some essential tasks to achieve during any kind of relationship and marriage is not different from them.
So far I could pinpoint some of them and hence be going to share with you.
Happiness
Both as an individual and as a couple happiness should be priority number one. That means making the choices based on how much happiness will it bring. In marriage as a couple, both partners should evaluate every choice if it will bring more happiness to your marriage or not.
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If there is a super power any human should have that would be listening. Listening to understand not to reply. My observations shown me that even the smallest problem may cause a huge damage when people don’t listen to understand. When you listen to reply you get rid of huge amount of information in order to find the weakest point in that answer and use that against that person. That attitude bring accusation and blame which will certainly lead to crisis.
Solution orientation
This one is highly related to the previous one. In order to solve anything, you should understand it. If the problem is a padlock the key to the solution is listening. I believe the most important task in any kind of relationship is to be solution oriented. Even when the things seem impossible to solve your attitude should be solution oriented. I always remind myself one episode of He-man in which Skeletor and he-man joined together to fight with a common enemy. Even the slightest conflict demand both partner’s attitude to solve it by leaving the dispute aside and work on that problem.
Set yourself free
The most important task of life is to reach the level of self-actualization. In marriages what I see is individuals are restricting each other. In order to establish the order in their minds, they are putting the other party in a restriction. That cause resentment and bitterness. No one likes to be locked and tied up. So if you cannot achieve a good level of freedom for both individuals it is only a matter of time before that marriage crumbles
Grow together
This last one is related with number 4. As an individual we can only experience small amount of life because we are limited. But as a couple you can experience more from life. Each individual have their own experiences and you experience life as a couple so 1 + 1 = 3 in that sense. When you set yourself free you will experience more of this life. Along with the first 4 step that will bring more things to enjoy and enrichment to your marriage. As the time goes by you will have the chance to grow 3x faster and enjoy life 3x more.
These should be your primary goals checklist to achieve. After that you can choose whichever goal you would like to do.If you like this article then hit the like button and share our page with your friends and family.