Marriage is the union of two different individuals, and two families. Getting married is a life’s biggest milestone. To have someone in your life who will be there for you in times of need, during struggling or low phase, to share your pains, to multiply your good times, to handle at your worst and to encourage and inspire you throughout the journey is an amazing feeling.

It’s natural to feel nervous before getting hitched in an arranged marriage. There is a sense of excitement and anxiety if you are going to meet someone for the first time that too an arranged marriage meeting. It’s not only you but that girl is too stressed out whom you’re going to meet in personal to know each other better.

The first question you ask yourself is “what would I ask her?” , “If the prospective match would feel comfortable?”  “If she will say yes or no?”. No need to panic. There are few questions we are enlisting here which you could ask your match in first arranged marriage meeting to know if she is the one for you.

•Make her feel comfortable in your company.

Parents set the meeting and you don’t get much time to spend together as both the families are present there waiting for you both to say yes or no. Initiate the conversation first and break the ice by simply asking what is her name. What is her likes or hobbies? What does she like to do in alone time? Make her feel comfortable and you will get to know her as a person.

• If she has makeup her mind to get married

One question which needs to be asked to a girl is that if she really wants to be married or it’s just a family pressure due to which she has said yes to the marriage. There are few families in India who are very conservative and they don’t bother if a girl has set up her mind to mark a new phase. Ask and say her to open up and tell freely.

• Inquire about her career goals

Believe! A girl really likes if a guy shows interest in her career. A girl wants that her respective better half acknowledge her education and is serious about her career motives.

•Joint family or small family

Living in a joint family is only seen in Indian culture. You have to accept a person along with his family members. Ask the girl if she prefers to be in a joint family or likes a nuclear family. There is no harm in raising the question as you would get to know if she is your type or not. Otherwise, respect her viewpoint.

•Hobbies or likes

Every person likes to do some time for her own being. People want to pursue a hobby in which they find happiness or satisfaction in doing. Put up the question if the girl wants to pursue any hobby even after marriage and then question yourself if you are comfortable and look forward.

•Types of dresses she likes to wear

It is a relevant question to be asked for in an Indian wedding as few people are very old fashioned here. They don’t like to see her daughter-in-law in western wears though there is nothing bad in it. Inquire which types of dresses she wants to wear after marriage and give it a thought if you and your family is okay with it.

•Family responsibility

You don’t know the girl well. Being the male member of the house, you need to fulfill few duties. Ask the respective girl if she wants to support her family financially even after getting hitched considering the fact she can be the only child of her parents or may be the elder one and if you like to share her responsibilities. Respect her decision anyway.

•What she expects from her partner

You are not the one who is going to marry, she is the one as well. Like you have few things in your mind that your wife should have this quality or other. She too has few expectations from her would-be partner. Ask her what qualities she wants in her partner and see if you are the one of her kind or not or are you able to change or develop few habits for her.

•Don’t ask about her past

Guys! Make one thing clear in your mind. It’s not a question to be enquired about in first arranged marriage setup or meeting.  Don’t ask her about her past relationships or breakups. It’s her choice if she wants to communicate over this topic. Let the past remain a past to begin a new phase of life together.

Indian weddings are filled with so many rituals and traditions. Before performing them in your own marriage with great religious belief, ask yourself if you really see that girl as your life partner. Do you both get along really well? Trust the vibes. Sometimes connection needs a minute to form and lasts a lifetime.