Marriage is a big decision of life which must be taken with utmost care. There is a slight difference between attraction and affection that can affect your married life. Your boyfriend has popped the question “Will you spend rest of your life with me?” kneeling down and having an engagement ring in his hand and you are confused what to say. There might be the case in an arranged marriage set up where your elders have chosen your soulmate for you. You are engaged now and going to tie knots in few months. But let’s get real. Sometimes you get to know your partner’s true colour or your emotions after he put a ring on your finger.

Don’t fret! You have not taken wedding vows yet. Explore your hidden emotions and unspoken feelings and take a look on the article whether you are ready to take next step and mentally prepare to walk down the aisle or it’s society norms you have to follow. Learn about the signs if you should call off your engagement.

• Family pressure

First thing first. It’s your life and you should decide when you are ready to get settled in life with someone special. In India, mostly girls take the decision to get married because their family wants that. You have all the right to call off the engagement if you have said yes due to elder’s pressure. It doesn’t matter your parents or irritating relatives wish to see you adorning bridal lehenga or your boyfriend is forcing you to marry him, surely these are not the valid reasons to get married. Decision especially of marriage taken under pressure and stress can never be cherished with heart.

• Check if you’re convincing yourself

Some commitments are made in excitement but when you come out of dream and face reality, you scratch your head wondering what you did. Love is an emotion which needs to be felt from the heart. If you are forcing and convincing yourself more than you love him, then you are fooling yourself and the person you are getting hitched with. If you are waking up the whole night that he is the right one for you, its high time you should call him and say no as a relationship should never be forced neither on others nor on yourself.

• Whether you are prepared for it

Not everyone is mature enough to survive in marriage. It requires many other essential factors than love to have a happy and healthy married life. Marriage needs financial stability, commitment, understanding, respect, good communication and dedication towards each other. These factors make love blossoms in a husband-wife relationship. It requires grace to foster a healthy marriage. Ensure yourself whether you are actually prepared for it.

• If your beau putting up restrictions

We all are aware of the fact that marriage needs compromise and adjustments at every stage and you are willing to do because you are so much in love with that person but there are few people who try to change your identity or the person you are. If your beau is putting up so many restrictions before marriage like don’t wear western outfits, don’t pursue your dream, or you will have to leave your career for the upbringing of the children then don’t take it lightly thinking things will change after marriage. Check whether you are happy to sacrifice all these things or not.

• Fear of being alone

Many people choose to get hitched because all their siblings and friends are getting married to someone and you are worried that you will be the only one who will be alone as they all will get busy in their respective lives. You have said yes only because you won’t get this opportunity again. You should marry someone who you think is right for you not because you fear that you will feel lonely. Love yourself enough before loving someone else.