Marriage is a beautiful union of two distinct individuals who have different values and attributes towards life. Though getting hitched with someone is a blissful moment for which a would-be bride awaits since childhood, it is also a life-changing event. Not only a newlywed bride, but a couple has to work together to maintain peace, harmony, and love in their married life. There are certain rules which a couple needs to follow to make their marriage work as avoiding these important things can spoil your holy matrimony.
Do not wait to show your true color until after you are married. In our society, There are many men and women who let the other do whatever he/she wants to do before they get married but as soon as they hitched together, they force others to change their lifestyle or leave a job which is totally unfair to both the people. Show your true individuality right before the marriage. Your goal in life should be a true person to yourself and to your better half. By hiding your true self, you and your partner both will remain unhappy. So, appreciate the differences and don’t force your partner to change the things because you don’t like them otherwise he/she will feel that they end up marrying the wrong person.
Do not alienate your friends. Many married people get too busy with their married life that they tend to forget their friends. Don’t avoid your other relationship as friends are people you choose for yourself. Chances are One day you wake up and realize that you need a friend to share something but no one is around you. Make sure to remain in touch with your lovely friends.
Do not set up your single friends with your spouse’s friends, or relatives. Just because you are married that does not mean that the whole world has to be married..right!! Don’t promise your cousin that you will set him/her with your spouse friend because they are single. Let them feel the butterflies in their stomach by themselves on seeing someone. Don’t try to fix a match.
Be kind to your single friends. A good friendship is like an old wine bottle. The value gets higher with the age. Don’t ever try to make your single friends feel uncomfortable in your home when they make a plan to meet you or come to your house to surprise you. Take a significant step to make your friend feel welcome. There is no such rule that a single friend is a nit allowed to spend time with his/her married friend. believe it, one day you’ll be glad that you took extra steps because that friend was and will always be there for you.
Treat your in-laws with the same respect and compassion like the way you treat your blood relations. They are elder to you and parents of your spouse. Needless to say, your partner has taken the first step with their support. Be honest, friendly and kind with your in-laws. Your mother in law is a person who gave birth to the person you love and without whom your life is incomplete. Try to put yourself in their situation every time you hate them or feel frustrated because of her behavior. Try to form a good relationship with your mother in law so that you get a healthy environment to live.
Do not gain weight. You might have lose weight to catch a spouse or to fit into your wedding dress or tux. But have an urge to maintain the health to stay healthy and attractive to your spouse. It’s important that you both take good care of your health to stay physically fit. Don’t opt to lose or gain weight just because you are married.
Don’t stop dating. Never stop spending quality time with your spouse after getting hitched. The place and whole setting don’t need to be something expensive. Just go for a long drive or book tickets to watch a movie together.
Don’t stop holding hands. love blossoms when you both never stop doing little cozy things together. Hold your spouse hand in public. make them feel they are appreciated and loved to be in your life. hold your partner’s hand especially when you are fighting as It will get difficult for them to throw a pillow or vase at you as you are holding his/her hands.
Treat sex as a priority in your marriage no matter what. Sex is the most intimate thing you can offer to your spouse. It is something that he/she can ethically get only from you. Never deny sex. Make a rule that you both will Never use sex to manipulate the other person which will only lead to resentments.
Spend 15 mins undivided attention to each other every day. Sit and Hold hands, look into each other’s eyes and just talk. Communicate about anything without filtering. Do talk about your innermost deep wounds like childhood fearful incident which trouble you or most embarrassing thing you’ve experienced. Do complaints..pour your heart out.Your concerns. Your needs. Conflicts. Issues..everything.This will eventually strengthen the bond between you two. Keep the communication going without pointing fingers at each other.
Do not violate their trust by sharing their secrets with your friends or family. Trust is like the glass in a window. Once it breaks, it can’t be fixed with a tape..you don’t get that the same frame again. Trust gets hard to rebuild in a marriage once broken.
Keep your personal life private. Don’t post pictures of your happily married life every other day. Not everyone is interested to know what’s going in your life. Moreover, there are only a few people who care about your happiness..who genuinely want to see you growing. Share your personal life only with your close friends and wellwishers.
Keep pursuing your passion. Take that music class. Never stop your personal growth. Pursue your dreams. Don’t give up on yourself. Encourage your partner to grow too. Marriage doesn’t allow you to cut your wings. Work towards your passion and be determined to achieve them.
Fight fairly. No name calling. Do not add fuel to the fire. Do go to bed angry. Next day you’ll forget or regret. You’ll be calmer to think logically.