As soon as a woman find a dream man, she starts fantasizing about a perfect life; less drama, more happiness, love and peace, everything is just a way beyond amazing. She expects to share the same bond and understanding with her mother in law like she shares with her beloved husband but the relationship between a mother in law and daughter in law is a bit complicated. As, a daughter in law, there are few things which she needs to tell you but unable to tell as thinking you might get hurt or misunderstand her or if you are a mother-in-law, read this article to know about few things your daughter in law want you to stop doing.

 
Its a whole new life for your son and daughter in law. She definitely needs time to get adjusted in new dynamics. There are few things a mother in law should avoid doing to make peace with daughter in law.
 
 
• Don’t interfere in their personal life. It’s a great piece of advice that every mother in law should follow to not take sides when her son and his wife is having a dispute about a specific thing. They both are matured beings and know how to resolve the conflict arising between them. Stay out of it as it won’t do any favour to their relationship.
 
 
• Stop criticizing. No matter for how long you are living with your daughter in law (1 month or 1 year)  you should never criticize her whether the food is burnt, she got up late, the way she dressed her little kids or the house is a mess. She is doing all the efforts to fulfil the new responsibilities, don’t make her feel like she is not good enough or will not live up to your expectations.
 
 
• Don’t utter bad words about your daughter-in-law in front of anyone or to her spouse. Even your son is complaining about his wife’s behaviour, and blaming her for any incident, try to help him change his way of thinking, speak only positives about his wife. It will help to strengthen the relationship they share with each other.
 
 
• Don’t help her out doing the laundry or kitchen unless you are asked. If you want to have a good relationship with your daughter in law, you must understand that it won’t do any good if you unnecessarily help her fold the clothes or cleaning her almirah in her absence. Let her go shopping and for a lunch alone with her husband. Don’t count yourself in every plan they make.
 
 
• Don’t feel that you are not loved like before only because a new member has entered your son’s life and now he is going to share every joy and sadness with his beloved. It was your decision as well to see your son riding a horse to take along his life partner with him after taking wedding vows. It’s just that he needs time to get settled in new life. His wife is not going to snatch your place at all. You will always be his first woman for the entire life.
 
 
• There is a problem with all the mothers-in-law out there. She wants to play with her grandchildren as early as her son gets marry without understanding the fact it is her son and daughter in law who have to raise the child. It will be their decision when they have to plan a baby and are mentally and physically prepared for it. Don’t insist her forcefully to have a kid because you want them. Let them decide when they want to enter into parenthood.
 
 
• Don’t ever compare your daughter in law with yourself, or your daughter or someone else wife. She is a unique human being who possess her own qualities and traits or even negatives. By doing this you are only disrespecting her identity and her persona and creating a unseen bridge between you and her.
 
 
• Switch on the lights. No not the tube light but of your brain. If you have some issue with your son’s wife, don’t make your son a middleman or spoke person and start complaining everything to him. It won’t do any good. Never confront him everytime you don’t feel pleased. Chances are he can raise a question against you if don’t like your behaviour. Talk her face to face.
 
 
• Your son is a grown up man who is happily married with his dear wife. Don’t treat him like a small kid supporting him even he is the one who is at fault. Cut that umbillical cord, let him take the charge of his wrongdoing. There may be times he doesn’t seek your approval before doing something special for his wife. Don’t insist him to ask everything to you before taking any decision.