Every relationship has its own good and bad. You have to sacrifice, compromise, understand, let go and face difficulties to maintain the charm of the beautiful relation. It gets more difficult when you are dear wife/gf of a Military officer whose first love is his motherland and his duty is to protect his beloved, The India. Obstacles come your way when you decide to love soldier as their life seems to move just a little faster and needs more planning than others having little or no time for you.
Being in a relationship with someone from the armed forces is one of the hardest yet most rewarding things. Being a soldier’s wife/gf, you learn how badly you can miss someone even to the extent it becomes physically painful. Yes, there are many hurdles to overcome, and there would be a lot of times you will feel alone but if you are a soldier’s gf/wife, you will agree to the points listed in the article.
• Emotionally strong. You become emotionally strong when you are a soldier’s gf. The homecomings and goodbyes are emotional roller coasters. The sudden change in plan creates a wide range of emotion in your heart, a tolerance power is built and learning how to handle or deal with emotions become a necessity.
• Patience is the key. No other individual is as patient as a soldier’s wife/gf due to the fact you don’t get to talk to them for days or even months. You have to wait for them to call or message you or inform you about his whereabouts. Patience is a virtue.
• Appreciate the little things. If you are a soldier’s wife/gf, you would definitely know the value of little things in life. Have you heard “Chota packet, bada dhamaka”, the smallest of a moment spent with them means a lot more than anything else? A one-minute phone call or a one hour date is enough. Seeing them smile face to face is what a woman looks up to.
• You start admiring a Soldier’s passion. His uniform combat shoes, Royal Enfield, G-shock watch and Rayban glasses, you fall in love with each and everything that belongs to him or is special to him in any way.
• The pain of separation. When you are a soldier’s wife/gf, you know the separation for months or for a year is quite obvious. When you see gf/bfs complaining and feeling nuts that they couldn’t stay away, you make them understand how it feels to stay apart from the one for years whom you love.
• Hate his mates. Don’t laugh but being a soldier’s wife/gf, you know you start hating their friends as they got more time to spend with him than you.
• No one is there to accompany you. Your heart aches and it feels like hell when you are invited for a party or at a function because he is not there to accompany you and you see other couples talking and having fun, you miss him more.
• You don’t have to worry how he will look like in a party because most of his parties have a dress code and you don’t have to advice him to wear red shirt with black jeans.
You get into a habit of missing him that even your man don’t feel how it feels like to miss someone. Unlike other relationships, the relationship you cherish being a soldier’s wife is filled with uncertainties and pain but imagining the time when you both with be together, the night where you can snuggle up to each other looking at the stars makes you feel excited and happy.